I have a very close-minded Spanish teacher who, unfortunately, teaches by humiliation - he'll take anything about you and hold it in your face until you remember answers to his questions. How can I deal with him if/when he pokes fun at the fact that I go by a gender-neutral name and half the time dress as a guy?
Asked by transaervania
I’m sorry you’re in this situation. :( *Offers hugs*
I think the best way to go about it would be to act completely indifferent to it. Your identity is not an insult. Treat it as if he’s stating the blatantly obvious. Don’t allow your identity to be humiliating. For example, say he’s like “you have brown hair”, you’d just be like… “yes, yes I do” because having brown hair isn’t a problem, you know? If he questions you mockingly, says something like “Your name isn’t a boy or a girl name, can’t you tell what you are?” or something, just be like “I like my name” or “I don’t believe in gendered names”. You don’t necessarily need to out yourself. I guess it goes with all forms of bullying - the more you hurt, the more the oppressor will enjoy it.
Having said that - I strongly urge you to speak to somebody higher up about this. You say that he teaches by humiliation - can you think of any classmates whom he has humiliated who would back you up if you were to speak to a senior staff member like a principal/head teacher? Going on your own might be scary, and it’s always daunting when you need to complain about someone who has so much authority over you, but in my experience most schools are very eager to listen if you have a legitimate complaint against a teacher, in the same way that a shop manager would listen if, say, a staff member verbally abused a customer. If you’re at the age when your parents are looking after you, you might want to tell them what’s up and ask if they could phone the school and complain, though I find that most teacher problems can be resolved when the whole class marches into the head’s office with the same complaint.
Teachers are supposed to be trustworthy people you can look up to, and if he is causing you this much emotional pain, he’s doing something wrong.
I hope everything goes well, and please drop me another message if you want to expand on this or ask anything else. <3